Joining a male-dominated industry, like engineering, computer science or construction trades, can be intimidating. So can working in a predominantly male office. Women often struggle to figure out how to gain respect from male colleagues. It's imperative to establish yourself as an intelligent, no-nonsense employee. Here are some ways to navigate a mostly male office.
-- Make sure women are valued. Before joining a firm in a male-dominated industry, make sure the company values and promotes women. Check to see if women are represented on the board and in leadership positions at the company, says Betty Spence, president of the National Association for Female Executives, a women's business association in New York. During the interview process, consider asking to speak with female employees to get their input and contact human resources to ask about policies like maternity leave.
-- Identify alpha and beta males. Separate the two types of men in the office and engage accordingly, says Christopher Flett, founder of Ghost CEO, a professional development program for women. Alpha males have a 'get it done' mind-set, so when speaking to an alpha co-worker, use 'goal-oriented' language and get to the point quickly, says Mr. Flett. Beta males are more concerned with collaboration and partnership, so tailor your language accordingly.
-- Find a mentor. Look for a female employee at your company to mentor you. She can provide you with a built-in support system and can help you figure out the lay of the land, says Raylie Dunkel, an executive coach and director of development with the Women's Leadership Exchange. If you can't find someone in the company, join a professional organization and build connections there. Mentors with direct experience in a male-dominated workplace can offer invaluable advice to navigating tricky situations.
-- Speak assertively. Eliminate the phrase 'I'm sorry' from your vocabulary, unless it's truly warranted. Women tend to apologize for situations that they aren't responsible for, which demonstrates weakness, says Ms. Spence. Don't begin sentences with the phrase 'I think,' as it demeans what you're saying, says Ms. Dunkel. Take a cue from your male co-workers and be direct and confident. Practice removing any traces of tentativeness from your vocabulary and be declarative when you speak.
-- Socialize with the boys. It may feel like you're crashing a fraternity party, but make your best effort to socialize with your male co-workers in formal and informal situations. Whether it's tagging along for lunch or drinks after work, important information is exchanged informally; being there to hear it may benefit your career, says Ms. Spence. If you find yourself being left out, organize your own events, says Ms. Dunkel. Consider joining the company-sponsored softball team or other activities.
-- Don't assume stereotypical roles. Women are naturally nurturing and it's something you shouldn't be afraid to show at work. However, be careful to not appear servile. Ms. Spence says never clean up after your co-workers or bring coffee to meetings -- you'll run the risk of being stereotyped and taken advantage of.
對(duì)于一名女性來(lái)說(shuō),在諸如工程、電腦、建筑等男性主導(dǎo)的行業(yè)就職難免會(huì)有些戰(zhàn)戰(zhàn)兢兢,而在一個(gè)大部分都是男性同事的辦公室工作也是如此。女性常常絞盡腦汁也想不出如何才能得到男同事的敬重。給自己塑造一個(gè)勤奮、嚴(yán)肅的形像是必須的,除此之外,我們對(duì)如何在以男同事為主的辦公室里生存還有以下一些建議。
確認(rèn)女性的價(jià)值能得到尊重。在加入一個(gè)以男性為主的行業(yè)之前,必須確認(rèn)這家公司尊重并鼓勵(lì)女性的參與?偛课挥诩~約的全美女性管理人員協(xié)會(huì)(National Association for Female Executives)主席斯賓塞(Betty Spence)說(shuō),可以看看公司董事會(huì)和管理層里是否有女性。去公司面試時(shí)可以考慮提出跟公司里的女性員工交談,搜集她們的反饋,并接觸人力資源部門詢問有關(guān)產(chǎn)假等方面的政策。
對(duì)兩類男性區(qū)別對(duì)待。女性職業(yè)發(fā)展項(xiàng)目Ghost CEO創(chuàng)始人弗萊特(Christopher Flett)說(shuō),要對(duì)辦公室里的兩類男性區(qū)別對(duì)待。A類男性喜歡采取行動(dòng)實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo),跟這類男性說(shuō)話的時(shí)候,可采用“目標(biāo)驅(qū)動(dòng)型”語(yǔ)言,開門見山。弗萊特說(shuō),B類男性更關(guān)注合作和伙伴關(guān)系,因此你可以針對(duì)性地選擇表達(dá)方式。
找一位導(dǎo)師。在公司里物色一位女同事為你提供指導(dǎo)意見。Women's Leadership Exchange職業(yè)發(fā)展部主任兼培訓(xùn)老師鄧克爾(Raylie Dunkel)說(shuō),她能為你提供“貼身”支持,幫助你認(rèn)清情況。如果在公司里找不到這樣的人,可以加入職業(yè)機(jī)構(gòu)并在那里發(fā)展這類關(guān)系。一位在男性主導(dǎo)的工作環(huán)境中有親身經(jīng)驗(yàn)的導(dǎo)師所提供的意見將會(huì)是無(wú)價(jià)之寶。
講話要果斷。別老說(shuō)“很抱歉”之類的話,除非有十足的理由。女性常常會(huì)對(duì)并非她們?cè)斐傻那闆r道歉,斯賓塞說(shuō),這顯出她們的軟弱。鄧克爾則認(rèn)為,說(shuō)話的時(shí)候不要用“我認(rèn)為”開頭,因?yàn)檫@會(huì)減弱你所講內(nèi)容的份量。參考一下你的男同事的語(yǔ)言特點(diǎn),自己在講話時(shí)更直接、更有自信。練習(xí)在講話時(shí)去掉那些顯示不太有把握的詞匯,試著更明確、干脆。
多與男性交往。你可能會(huì)有好像破壞了男性聚會(huì)的感覺,但你該盡最大努力在正式或非正式場(chǎng)合跟男同事交往。斯賓塞說(shuō),不論是一起吃午餐還是工作結(jié)束后一起來(lái)點(diǎn)咖啡,在這些非正式場(chǎng)合也會(huì)有重要的信息交流,參與進(jìn)去、聽聽這些或許對(duì)你的職業(yè)發(fā)展有好處。鄧克爾說(shuō),如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己被忽略了,你可以自己組織這類活動(dòng)?梢钥紤]參加公司主辦的壘球隊(duì)或其他活動(dòng)。
不要扮演固有的老套角色。女性天生有母性的一面,你不必?fù)?dān)心在工作中會(huì)顯露這一點(diǎn)。不過,要注意的是不要表現(xiàn)得卑躬屈膝。斯賓塞說(shuō),不要跟在同事后面清理亂攤子,或是往會(huì)議室里送咖啡,否則,你有可能給別人留下這種固定印象,長(zhǎng)此以往,會(huì)被一些人“占便宜”。