Everyone has periods in their lives when everything seems very hard, when there’s nobody to talk to and the mood is just getting worse and worse. But why sit and think how pathetic you are? There are some things that may help you lift up your mood. If it fails you, at least while doing these things you won’t have time to think of your problems. You win anyway!
The first thing you should try is socializingand thinking positively. It’s very hard, because usually when we feel depressed we lock ourselves at home and try to think about all the bad character issues we have. But if you’ll try to force yourself and call a friend for a cup of coffee, the chances for changing your mood into better are very good. Just try to avoid bad thoughts. Instead, try to think only about the bright side of your life. Don’t forget: We are what we think we are.
You should also try doing something only for yourself, something totally selfish. This could be something you wanted for a long time: maybe a short trip, a coat, a ring or anything that could lift up your mood. This doesn’t have to be extravagant nor costly. The point of all this is being good to yourself.
Not only giving presents to yourself can lift up your mood. Buying things to others may be a perfect way to feel happy. Think of your friends, family, relatives or even local charities,choose one person and give him a gift. It doesn’t have to be something expensive nor big. It may be just a little toy to your poor neighbor’s child. Making another person feel happy will make you feel good in your heart and mind.
Renting a good or happy film is always a good idea. Laughter is a very good panacea for all kinds of illness!
Meeting a positive person should be very useful. Just try to keep your problems off the conversation. The idea here is to get out of your shell and have some interaction. Get involved with someone else and your mind will take a turn as well.
Most bad moods and mental attitudes are the result of something that had happened to us in the PAST. It is vital to your mind, soul, body and your life on the whole that you stay in the PRESENT with all your thoughts and feelings. Try to concentrate onthe present and future to make your life better in every possible way.
Taking a walk in a crowded place is also one of the ways out. Seeing other people, understanding that each of them also has days like this should force you to do something that would change the situation.
If you have too much time—volunteer it. We usually think that the problems we have are huge, although if you’ll try to go to hospital,you’ll see that there are a lot of people who have more severeproblems. Moreover, you’ll see that people are still working, smiling, and laughing. This kind of work will definitely help you understand that your problems are very small and maybe even funny.
Try to meditate while listening to relaxation music. It helps to concentrate your mind and relax your body.
Don’t forget to be creative! Because creating things alters our mood. Creating doesn’t include only painting or playing an instrument, it also includes cooking, sewing, writing, photographing and many other activities. While concentrating on creating you will forget how you have been feeling.
All you have to do is to take control of your emotions and make them positive in spite of letting them control you. Making yourself feel better isn’t that hard, it’s hard only to start doing something that would lift up your mood.
每一個(gè)人在其生活當(dāng)中,都有這樣的一個(gè)時(shí)期:一切事都是那么不順心,沒(méi)有人可以交流,心緒變得越來(lái)越糟糕。但是,為什么你坐在這兒總是想著你是多么的可憐呢?這兒有些方法能幫助你改善你的心緒。假如這些方法都不起作用的話,至少,當(dāng)你在做這些事的時(shí)候,你就沒(méi)有時(shí)間來(lái)想你的問(wèn)題。無(wú)論如何,我們是贏家!
第一件事就是:你應(yīng)該融入人群并想積極的方面。這很難,因?yàn)橥ǔ.?dāng)我們感到失望時(shí),我們就會(huì)把自己鎖在家里,試圖想著我們自身的不好的品質(zhì)。但是,如果你強(qiáng)迫你自己邀請(qǐng)朋友一起去喝一杯咖啡,讓自己有個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)去改變心緒,這是非常好的。避免壞的想法,相反,你應(yīng)該想象你生活中那些精彩的一面,不要忘了:我們是我們所想象成的那樣。
你應(yīng)該做一些專門為你自己做的事,完全是為你自己的。這可能是你一段時(shí)間以來(lái)你所想要的東西:可能是短途旅行、一件衣服、一個(gè)戒指或者是任何能改善你心緒的東西。這不必是非常奢侈的,也不必是非常昂貴的,只要它們有對(duì)你有好處的一面。
買禮物給自己不僅僅能改善你的心緒,買東西給別人也是一個(gè)使你感到高興的極好方法。想想你的朋友、家庭、親戚,甚至當(dāng)?shù)氐拇壬茩C(jī)構(gòu),選擇一個(gè)人并給他買禮物。這不必是什么昂貴的或大的東西。這也可能是給家庭貧困的鄰居的小孩買的一個(gè)小玩具。使他人高興也能快樂(lè)自己。
租一部好的或搞笑的電影也是一個(gè)好注意,笑能治百病。
與一個(gè)積極的人交流也是有用的,在談話中避開(kāi)你的問(wèn)題。這個(gè)理念就是:走出你自己的圈子并與他人多些交流。多與他人在一起,你的觀點(diǎn)和想法也會(huì)轉(zhuǎn)變的。
大多數(shù)不好的心緒和心理狀態(tài)是過(guò)去的事情發(fā)生的結(jié)果?傮w上,你認(rèn)識(shí)到你所有的想法和情感是生活在現(xiàn)在,這對(duì)你的心理、靈魂、身體和你生命是非常重要的。把你的精力放在現(xiàn)在和未來(lái)吧,用各種方法使你的生活變得更美好。
在擁擠的人群中散步也是一種好的方法?纯磩e人,想想他們也有與你類似的時(shí)期,那么,你就應(yīng)該做一些能改變情形的事。
如果你有很多的時(shí)間,去做志愿者吧。我們通常認(rèn)為我們的問(wèn)題是非常巨大的,一旦你去了醫(yī)院,你將會(huì)看到這兒有許多的人,他們的問(wèn)題更嚴(yán)重。然而,這些人仍然在工作、在開(kāi)心地笑。你將會(huì)認(rèn)識(shí)到你的問(wèn)題是多么渺小和多么可笑。
當(dāng)你在聽(tīng)音樂(lè)的時(shí)候,試圖思考一些問(wèn)題,這有助于你集中精神和放松身體。
不要忘了創(chuàng)意!因?yàn)閯?chuàng)造一些東西也能改變我們的心緒,創(chuàng)造不僅僅包括繪畫(huà)和演奏樂(lè)器,它還包括做飯、縫紉、寫(xiě)作、攝影和其他的一些活動(dòng)。當(dāng)我們集中精力創(chuàng)造時(shí),我們就會(huì)忘掉我們?cè)?jīng)的情感。
所有我們必須要做的就是:控制我們的情緒并使它們積極起來(lái),而不是讓它們來(lái)控制你;使你感覺(jué)更好并不難,難的是你開(kāi)始能做些什么事來(lái)改善你的心緒。